Being seen ... Being seen by someone is so very important to all of us.. It is the core longing... When someone listens to one's pains, stories, confusions, frustrations, it gives a feeling of comfort to the one who is sharing. One feels less odd, less rejected, less hated, lesser alone for sometime- and strangely more connected to that person (Co-dependency)! A sense of immediete validation and emotional belongingness arise. The one who listens, feels overburdened, loaded with pain energy, not knowing what to do with it.., scattered, heavy, exhausted, drained, what not... The belief in lack, faithful pursuit of self-hate, self-rejection, self-judgement, self-doubt is plainly transferred to the other who is innocently (ignorantly/unconsciously/unknowingly) receiving all the dark energy (tamas) on offer with all fresh energy to start with- not knowing where it was leading to. The initial light of Love energy of the listener is diminished in a few seconds to dense and heavy cl...
I have approached (only) two kind beings for psychological/spiritual help after a traumatic incident 4 years ago. First one was a young and fine therapist from Mumbai. A wonderful woman, younger than me. She spoke little in the sessions, as a rule. I was encouraged to speak from the beginning till the end of the session. She only listened and took notes :D . I recollected memories from the past, discovering where the trauma started. I expressed more. I felt valued, significant, hopeful. Laughed more at discoveries. And cried and cried. Cried and then laughed. Vented out feelings of betrayal, fears of abandonment. Felt better after each session. But, did I think about the girl on the other side who offered herself completely as a “Therapist”? I felt light and was ready to "this-time-more-consciously" create another round of mess with all my validated emotions :D. But how is she feeling? Did my emotion care about hers? More emotion means more concern or empathy, right? N...